“If you want to achieve your goal, don’t focus on them.”

This is what I have learned from a TEDx video by Reggie Rivers. Though pretty absurd it sounds to me, he quite convincingly proved his point in the video. He gives a small case study of his journey with his girlfriend, how he wanted some girl to be her girlfriend, how focusing on that goal didn’t help and how once the focus was gone, he did have a stint with her.

His point was pretty clear. The focus should be on behaviour rather than our goal. For achieving a goal is something that is beyond our control. But our behaviour is something that can be in our control if we want it to. So the thing goes like this:

  1. Set your goal
  2. Set out what you are going to do to get closer to achieving your goal. Do this for today, tomorrow and this week

This way we get closer and closer to our goal asymptotically. Sounds pretty convincing..So lets roll up our sleeves!!!